Effective Couples Communication Tips



Marriage is a beautiful experience when you are married to the right person. To have a successful and happy marriage both spouse have to put in the extra work regarding a whole of lot things to make the marriage fruitful. Today i would like to write about one key ingredient to make a marriage work well.
Communication:
I know that to live a happy and prosperous married life, it’s necessary that we continuously work on improving our communication with our spouse. Good communication is key in every marriage. Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together – if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble. When spouses no longer communicate, a marriage nurtures no one. It is no longer a marriage but just two people living together.
True communication involves respect for the other person as well as active energy on your part. A healthy marriage is essential for our  well-being, and that is why it’s essential that a husband and wife are able to understand each other well.A successful marriage depends on honesty, love, affection and most importantly communication. Although a lot of people often neglect the latter, it’s, however, a significant component of satisfied married life. 
Both verbal and nonverbal communication is necessary
As long as you and your significant other are communicating and are sharing your thoughts, emotions, and ideas with each other only then will the two of you will be able to understand each other at a deeper and intimate level.
This communication isn’t restricted to verbal communication only; a successful marriage life requires you and your spouse to be able to communicate nonverbally as well. Nonverbal communication includes your facial expressions and your body language. You need to understand that the more honest connection you and your spouse have the more easily you’ll be able to express yourself when interacting with each other.
It’s all about being positive in your communication skills. Both of you need to be honest and focus on what makes your life better together. 
Below are some ways you can include positive communication in your marriage.
Freely express positive feelings. Most people are quicker to express negative feelings than positive ones. It is vital to the health of your marriage that you affirm your spouse. Positive feelings such as appreciation, affection, respect, admiration, approval, and warmth expressed to your spouse are like making deposits into your love account. You should have five positive deposits for every one negative. If your compliments exceed your complaints, your spouse will pay attention to your grievances. If your complaints exceed your compliments, your criticism will fall on deaf ears.
When your spouse pays you a compliment, receive it and be blessed by it. It is easier for many to give a compliment than it is to receive it.

Do Not Attack. Even when we mean well, we can sometimes come across as harsh because of our word choice. Using “you” can sound like you’re attacking, which will make your partner defensive and less receptive to your message. Instead, try using “I” or “we.” For example, say “I feel like we haven’t been as close lately” instead of “You have been distant with me.”
Be Honest. Agree to be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s the key to a healthy relationship. Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make a mistake instead of making excuses. You will feel better and it will help strengthen your relationship.

Check Your Body Language. Let your partner know you’re really listening by giving them your full attention: sit up, face them and make eye contact when speaking. Don’t take a phone call, text or play a video game when you’re talking. Show your partner you respect them by listening and responding.
Be intentional about spending time together talking. The average couple spends only 20 minutes a week talking with each other. Turn off the technology and make it a point to spend 20-30 minutes a day catching up with each other.

Be specific. When issues arise, be specific. Broad generalizations like, "You do it all the time!" are not helpful.

Avoid mindreading. It is very frustrating when someone else acts like they know better than you what you were really thinking.

Be forgiving.Colossians 3:13 Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.
In conclusion it’s essential that couples include positive communication in marriage. In short, make sure that you listen actively, empathize with each other, and appreciate what your spouse does for you.

Credit:marriage.com.
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